Training for Contentment pt. 1

When I started the discussion about Paul’s secret in Philippians 4:12-13 a few posts ago, the context of that passage was how he had learned contentment. Since I believe many modern western people struggle with being content, I would like to circle back and discuss how we can apply Paul’s secret and train with Jesus in this area.

As we begin our discussion about spiritual training with Jesus, I need to make several points. First, what I’m about to outline is neither a prescription nor a one-size-fits-all detailed plan. Spiritual practices provide the space for us to interact and cooperate with God. Only God brings transformation. Spiritual disciplines help make space in our thoughts, feelings, body and will for him to work.

This leads to the second point. Spiritual disciplines do not directly cause transformation. Heroic efforts in spiritual practices will not result in quicker transformation. Nor is the goal to master the spiritual disciplines.

Third, anyone who has read or listened to Dallas Willard will realize that I lean heavily on his insights. I believe that he offers the most thoughtful insights and recommendations into spiritual formation in the modern church. So a lot of what follows is deeply influenced by him.

Fourth, when we talk about spiritual training, it is interactive training in cooperation with Jesus. He is alive and with us right now. He is the master of life and offers to teach us his life in the kingdom to experience the transformation from God we seek. Therefore, communication and guidance from Jesus in these areas are essential. Spiritual formation is not a DIY project. We are novices who can only learn from the master.

Fifth, this post will be broken into two separate posts. I will use this post to discuss general spiritual training and the next post to discuss specific spiritual training for contentment.

The apprentice of Jesus should be engaged in the lifeline process of spiritual training. This is what I mean by general spiritual training. We are following Jesus in the overall transformation of our lives into the likeness and quality of his life. This provides the general backdrop for specific spiritual training that we can use for particular areas of our lives, such as discontentment, anger, lust, or unforgiveness.

To discuss general spiritual training, I want to use another one of Paul’s popular passages:

“Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God — this is your true and proper worship. Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.” Romans 12:1-2

The first thing Paul mentions is offering our bodies as a living sacrifice to God. This is done through spiritual disciplines. Every spiritual discipline incorporates the body. They allow us to create space for God through bodily activity, thus following Jesus into his practices. Jesus practiced spiritual disciplines such as solitude, silence, prayer, fasting, giving, Scripture study, fellowship, celebration, and sabbath.

As I start training with Jesus, I would spend time discussing with him how to gently incorporate some spiritual disciplines into the routine of my life. Some spiritual disciplines could be daily routines, some weekly, monthly or quarterly. Again, it’s not about working harder or performing heroic effort. It’s about gently making space for God under Jesus’ guidance. And the more these become part of your routine throughout the day, the better. We want to have relational space with God throughout the day so we become accustomed to moment-by-moment interaction with him.

If Jesus is directing me to fast, perhaps I try fasting a meal a week. If he’s leading me to pray, maybe it’s three five-minute moments worked into the natural transitions of my day. If he’s directing me to solitude, I might try a 30-minute slow and unhurried walk at a local park once a week. And whatever he’s leading me to do, I continue to dialogue with him and adjust as needed.

Through the spiritual disciplines, Jesus is going to teach us his lifestyle. And his lifestyle was unhurried, relaxed, and confident in God. I truly believe that an unhurried life is crucial for deep spiritual formation. Many of our sins, addictions, and dysfunctions are the result of habits forged by our constant hurry, stress, and anxiety. Until that changes, much of the transformation that God wants to impart to us will not experience significant traction until we learn to adopt Jesus’ unhurried lifestyle.

The goal is not to add spiritual disciplines on top of an already busy life. Instead, through gentle adoption of spiritual practices, Jesus is going to teach us how to become less hurried. And this may result in dropping some things if our schedule is past capacity.

In Romans 12:1-2, Paul then says, “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” The default formation of our minds is to conform to the ideas and values of our culture at large. Imagine our culture is like a river. By default we are carried along, drifting wherever the current of ideas and values takes us.

The root of renewal and transformation is our mind. Both thoughts and feelings reside in the mind. Every thought has feelings associated with them. And every feeling is directed by a thought. We deal with feelings through our thoughts. Our thoughts are the primary area we have access to change. 

As I train with Jesus, I would talk with him about my mind — what I think and feel — especially concerning the following four general areas. Again, these will form the mental backdrop to then dealing with specific thoughts and feelings around contentment.

  • God and his nature — how God is endlessly abundant in all love, joy, peace,  power, knowledge and how his goodness for all his creation will prevail.
  • The world he has created — how God’s character and purposes are reflected within his good world so that it is a perfectly safe place for us to be.
  • The availability God’s kingdom — how God’s kingdom is a present, immediate, and powerful reality available to us through Jesus.
  • How my life would flourish — how my life would look by abandoning my agenda and following Jesus into his lifestyle, practices and purposes.

The goal is to interact with God in these four areas in order to retrain how we think, and thus how we feel. We’re training our minds to keep turning back to these four areas by default — when we’re at a stoplight, taking a walk, standing in line at the store, waiting in a doctor’s office, etc. Our minds learn to naturally rest on these four areas. Or to use a biblical term, we abide in them and in the immense goodness and love induced by contemplating on them.

The outcome is then stated in Romans 12:1-2, “Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.” Being trained in Jesus’ lifestyle, practices and thoughts, we become like him in character, power, and faith and are able to live like him.

Let this quote from Dallas Willard inspire you:

“To live and lead like Jesus, we need to think like Jesus. He knew who he was speaking of. He knew to whom he was introducing others. He knew Elohim’s capabilities, purposes and priorities. Jesus knew and acted on the fact that Yahweh is limitless, boundless, and unrestrained in power, grace, mercy, peace, joy, hope and love. All things are possible. All things. Jesus knew his Father’s name, and he knew when to invoke it to do his will, creatively, adventurously, and joyfully, for himself, for the well-being of others, and ultimately for the entire world.”

Imagine that quote speaking about you. Because that is what Jesus has offered to teach us, “Take my yoke upon you and learn from me.”

The renewal of our minds should work hand-in-hand with the spiritual disciplines we are gently incorporating into our life routines. The interactive space we’re creating through these bodily practices allows us to adopt Jesus’ unhurried and relaxed lifestyle and to interact with God to become saturated with his boundless goodness and love. 

This is the trajectory of our general spiritual training as we follow Jesus. Next time, let’s discuss specific spiritual training into contentment.

Two More Pieces To The Secret

When I read Paul’s words in Philippians 4:12-13 and other passages where he describes the flourishing life and character of Jesus’ apprentices, I wonder how long it took him to grow into such a life.

Then I think about the short span of time from Jesus calling his disciples to releasing them into the greater world with his world-transforming assignment. In approximately three years, Jesus was able to teach, demonstrate, and impart the interactive life in God’s kingdom to the extent that his original disciples were able to embody it, grow in it, and replicate it in others. In just three years, they had assimilated Jesus’ lifestyle and practices enough to allow them to embody and implement his mission.

Granted, they weren’t perfect. Not even close. Mistakes were made. A lot of mistakes, both while Jesus was physically present with them and after he commissioned them and ascended to his Father.

Yet, the new life Jesus imparted to them, by reshaping their thinking, feelings, bodily habits, daily practices, and relational posture so they could regularly engage with God’s activity, provided enough forward momentum to carry them into a wild and unknown future. And this wild and unknown future had been radically redefined and reshaped through the crucifixion and resurrection. Evil’s back had been irrevocably broken and God’s New Creation had launched in the midst of the old creation. So in three years, Jesus gave his first apprentices what they needed to successfully experience ongoing transformation and to replicate it in others in this new world.

Along with the life he imparted and the world-altering events of the crucifixion and resurrection, Jesus also promised his apprentices two other significant components that would carry them onward into lifelong transformation. The first was the empowering of the Holy Spirit. The Spirit brings an energy that allows us to “keep in step with the Spirit.” This collaborative life with God’s Spirit is outwardly demonstrated in two ways — through the gifts of the Spirit and the fruit of the Spirit. The gifts of the Spirit enable us to perform specific functions with effects beyond our own abilities. And the fruit of the Spirit is the very character of the Trinity, formed into the apprentice’s life through ongoing character formation.

The other component that Jesus promised was trials. “In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” Daily life in the real world, especially trials and suffering, form the natural environment for transformation for both Jesus’ individual apprentices and the community of apprentices as a whole. The Book of Acts is full of these trials — persecution, deception, divisiveness, accusations, confusion, frustrations, difficult decisions, and controversies. These were a constant experience for the early community of Jesus’ friends. And counter-intuitively, each trial seemed to provide more momentum rather than stalling the ongoing formation of Jesus’ apprentices and their impact upon the world around them.

The ongoing interactive life in God’s kingdom is lived in the midst of our real lives in the real world. We retrain our thoughts, feelings, body, will, soul and relationships through embracing Jesus’ unhurried lifestyle and practices. We do this under the guidance and power of the Holy Spirit. And it’s experienced in the heat and stress of normal daily trials. And all of it is done imperfectly, but faithfully, as Jesus’ apprentices and collaborators. And while it takes a lifetime and beyond, the transformation can start immediately and the benefits experienced in a fairly short time.

The Secret To The Secret

“In every possible situation I’ve learned the hidden secret of being full and hungry, of having plenty and going without, and it’s this: I have strength for everything in the one who gives me power.” Philippians 4:12-13

In my last post, I mentioned how Paul’s secret to learning contentment was relying on Jesus to strengthen him.

For many years, I clung to the promise of Philippians 4:13, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” Actually, I clung to my version of the promise.

There’s a scene in the original Avengers movie where Iron Man is battling Thor. During the battle, Thor strikes Iron Man with a bolt of lightning. The suit’s AI then informs Tony Stark that the suit was now charged to 400% capacity, allowing him to attack with far greater power than the suit’s design.

That’s how I viewed Philippians 4:13’s promise. “Lord, zap me so I can do something beyond my means, something I’m not designed or prepared to actually do.”

Lord, give me strength to forgive that person who has hurt me.

Lord, empower me to stop over-eating.

Lord, help me to be content with what I have.

Lord, restrain me from saying the wrong thing.

Lord, stop me from being impatient when I drive.

I think you get my drift. My prayer was that God would overload me with his power and grace so I could supernaturally operate at 400% capacity and instantaneously do things in the moment I naturally was not prepared to do.

Don’t get me wrong. Sometimes God wonderfully answers those prayers and infuses us with such grace that we’re stunned at what we’re able to accomplish in the moment. Those situations are amazing!

But that is not the moment-by-moment life in God’s kingdom that Jesus invites us to enter or that Paul is describing in Philippians 4:13. Just a sampling from Paul’s letters makes this clear:

“Train yourself to be godly.” 1Timothy 4:7

“I discipline my body and bring it under complete control.” 1Corinthians 9:27

“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is.” Romans 12:2

“Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.” Philippians 4:8

“Always be joyful. Never stop praying. Be thankful in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you who belong to Christ Jesus.” 1Thessalonians 5:16-18

“Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me — put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you.” Philippians 4:9

Paul’s experience of kingdom life as Jesus’ apprentice was one of moment-by-moment interaction and cooperation with Jesus, learning from him how to actually be like him, from the inside-out. By doing so, we are strengthened by Christ to become like him and thus have the ability to “do all things in Christ”.

Then the things that used to be beyond our means and for which we prayed God to zap us in the moment so we could supernaturally do, have over time become within our means to naturally do. Through daily interaction and practice with Jesus, we have trained with him and have been strengthened by him to now be like him and to think and act like him in all circumstances.

Or to put it another way, Paul learned to embrace Jesus’ lifestyle to learn how to grow into Jesus’ life — to grow into Jesus’ knowledge, faith, character, power and action — within Paul’s own life. In this way, Paul could say:

“I am, however, alive — but it isn’t me any longer, it’s the Messiah who lives in me. And the life I do still live in the flesh, I live within the faithfulness of the son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.” Galatians 2:20

That’s the secret to the secret.